Stretching from Texas to Tennessee, the storm will continue through at least Thursday morning, affecting travel and possibly knocking out power in some areas. Thousands of flights have been disrupted.
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Stretching from Texas to Tennessee, the storm will continue through at least Thursday morning, affecting travel and possibly knocking out power in some areas. Thousands of flights have been disrupted.
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This post, our boss tells lies to make us feel bad for taking time off , was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes:
The other week, I took a few sick days due to Covid and a double ear infection. I was legitimately ill and even offered to submit a medical note. When I returned, my manager, Corrine, sat me down to tell me my team was forced to work overtime due my absence and they even had to come in on Saturday for a few hours. I was confused considering I didn’t see any communication proving this on Teams or in my email. I finally asked my coworkers and they were just as confused. They said none of this happened.
As the conversation went on, a few others had similar stories. One woman even said Corrine called her in the middle of her birthday dinner to berate her for leaving at her normal time and said we all were still working because of her. This absolutely never happened — one person leaving has never set us behind that far and I certainly would remember having to stay later because of a birthday dinner. Another woman said when she returned from a cruise, she received a similar lecture.
I’m quite disgusted and I want to have a conversation with Corrine face to face; I feel like it’d be harder to lie this way. Am I overreacting or is this totally inappropriate, not to mention weird behavior? How would you react to this?
I wrote back and asked, “What’s your manager like aside from this? I feel like there have got to be other issues with her!” The response:
Have you ever had a manager where you think “this person would 100% throw me under the bus without hesitation”? That’s what she is to me. The other week she forgot to tell us to run a report we didn’t know about; two days later she spent 30 minutes reaming us out in a meeting about how we should have asked her if we had any confusion … but if we don’t know a report needs to be done, why would we ask? It was a new report, not something we have ever heard of before. She constantly is changing meeting times and when people don’t show up on time, she will make a huge deal out of it but never acknowledges that it’s likely because she scheduled it for 2 pm and changed it to 1:30 pm at the last minute.
Everything is a fire drill, no situation can wait. She consistently tells us that since we are salaried, we are expected to be on call 24/7. This is my first salaried position (as with the majority of my coworkers because this position was just made salaried this year) so I don’t know if this is normal (note from Alison: it’s not), but shouldn’t we have some work/life balance? There’s a constant talk of layoffs but only from her; the company has sent no communication and other managers have no idea why she says this. It feels like she wants us in a constant state of anxiety and I have no idea why.
The main issue is she has been with the company for 35 years. We work in HR so if we reached out to a different department of HR, we would most likely be talking to her friends. I really just want to ask why she felt it necessary to tell me that getting Covid was detrimental to the team because I don’t appreciate being made to feel guilty for getting sick; however, the vibes she’s giving off tell me that she would become combative and try to gaslight me into thinking she never said that.
I think the key is this: “It feels like she wants us in a constant state of anxiety.”
She gets something out of behaving this way — maybe that she is in a constant state of anxiety so she wants others to be too (not necessarily because of cruelty but because she feels you won’t be sufficiently alert and vigilant otherwise; obviously this is hugely disordered thinking, but some people are this way), or maybe she only knows how to rule by fear (which I would argue also comes from a place of anxiety at its core). Or maybe she is an actual sadist who intentionally tries to keep you off-balance, but that seems a lot less likely than the other possibilities.
Regardless of the cause, though, something is truly wrong with Corrine and she shouldn’t be managing people.
Does it not occur to her that some of her lies will be very easily found out? Telling you that your team had to work on Saturday because of you is so easily exposed as a lie — it’s not like coworkers don’t talk — that Corrine doesn’t seem to be operating in the same plane of reality as the rest of us.
Given the full picture you’ve painted, I’m not sure there’s a lot to be gained by addressing the lies with her. There might be! Who knows, maybe letting her know that she’s so easily found out will discourage her from lying in the future. But there’s a good chance that she’ll just get more combative and maybe hold it against you in ways that will make your job even harder than it already is.
That said, in your position, I don’t know if I could resist saying something! I would be itching to go back to her and say, “You said the team had to work on Saturday when I was out sick, but everyone I talked to said they haven’t worked on a Saturday. What am I missing?” I would want to do it regardless of whether it helped anything, and possibly even if it made things worse, just because it would be so frustrating not to say I SEE YOU CORRINE.
But the wiser course of action is probably to resist that impulse and just to continue to information-share with your team, since you’re all being subject to these lies. Ideally you’d all make sure everyone on your team knows what Corrine is doing and agree that from now on when she tries to guilt-trip you about time off, you’ll all just calmly reply “okay” or some other neutral, unaffected response. (And really, even if what she was telling you was true … so? Are you supposed to conclude you shouldn’t take time off when you’re sick and contagious? Did she want you to come to work with Covid? There’s no point in speculating on the answer to that because we’ve already established Corrine doesn’t live in our reality, but it makes this all additionally ridiculous.)
Beyond that, I hope you’ll seriously consider looking for a new job, because having a boss who’s this far out of the galaxy the rest of us inhabit is going to affect you in a ton of ways. I can’t imagine your day-to-day quality of life there is good, or that she provides you with useful feedback or advocates effectively for your professional development, or that you don’t go home with a pounding headache much of the time. Please imagine what a relief it would be to be out of this situation by the end of this year, and consider whether it might be worth the work of making that happen!
Lisa Loring will be remembered as a Hollywood icon for playing the gloomy Wednesday Addams at age 6. She went on to fill roles on As the World Turns and the Girl from U.N.C.L.E..
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Lisa Loring, best known for being the first person to play Wednesday Addams on the original "The Addams Family" sitcom, has died. She was 64. Loring began her career as a child, first starting out as a child model at age three before appearing on an episode of the 1960s TV series "Dr. Kildare." When Loring was six she landed the role of the gloomy child Wednesday Addams on "The Addams Family," which ran from 1964 through 1966. Loring would also return to the role for reunion specials, including "Halloween with the New Addams Family" in 1977.
"I didn't know how to read yet, I hadn't been to first grade, so [producer David Levy] wasn't prepared to see children that young, that he didn't know. But I had my hair down to here [indicates her waist], my mother put a pretty dress and little white gloves on me, and I had a little black patent leather handbag. And he thought I was so adorable -- he told me this later, when I was an adult -- he said, 'So what I did was, I asked you pout first.' And he loved that."Then, because she couldn't read, David Levy read through both the characters' lines for her first."He planned to do it two or three times for me, [but] the second time I came back with the lines verbatim. Then I did a screen test, one of five girls, and ultimately it was [Gomez Addams actor] John Astin and David Levy who picked me."
Loring added that the cast of the original show — including Carolyn Jones, John Astin, Jackie Coogan, Ted Cassidy, Blossom Rock, and Ken Weatherwax — was like a "real family" to her. Known for her non-sunny disposition and fondness for mutilated dolls, Wednesday, first created by cartoonist Charles Addams, became a fan-favorite character, eventually being played in later years by Christina Ricci (whom Loring called "a perfect Wednesday") and more recently, Jenna Ortega. Ortega's viral dance scene from Netflix's "Wednesday" series was actually a partial tribute to a similar dance Loring performed on the original series. As Ortega said:
"I knew there were certain things I wanted to do. I paid homage to Lisa Loring, the first Wednesday Addams. I did a little bit of her shuffle that she does. Of course they cut out of camera when I did do it, but it's there! I know it is!"
Regarding the original dance, Loring said:
"My dialogue in that is so funny. 'You've got to be cool, you've got to be hip!' - this was the '60s. And I saw it and I thought, 'Who taught me how to dance like that? I can't dance like that.' It had like eight million views or something ... I watched it and I hadn't thought of it in years."
Loring was born Lisa Ann DeCinces on February 16, 1958. Her career also included the TV series "The Pruitts of Southampton," the soap opera "As the World Turns," and B-movies such as "Blood Frenzy", "Iced", and "Savage Harbor." Loring was first married at age 15 in 1973, the same year she gave birth to a daughter. Loring would marry three more times and have another child.
"It is with great sadness that I report the death of our friend, Lisa Loring. 4 Days ago she suffered a massive stroke brought on by smoking and high blood pressure. She had been on life support for 3 days. Yesterday, her family made the difficult decision to remove it and she passed last night...She is embedded in the tapestry that is pop culture and in our hearts always as Wednesday Addams. Beautiful, kind, a loving mother, Lisa's legacy in the world of entertainment is huge. And the legacy for her family and friends — a wealth of humor, affection and love will long play in our memories. RIP, Lisa. Damn, girl...you were a ton of fun."
Loring's daughter, Vanessa Foumberg, added:
"She went peacefully with both her daughters holding her hands."
Some of Loring's other work included roles in such projects as TV series "The Girl from U.N.C.L.E.," "Barnaby Jones," and "The Phyllis Diller Show," the TV movie "Gabe and Walker," and films "Way Down in Chinatown" and "Doctor Spine," her final acting job. Like many former child stars, Loring's adult life was tumultuous. As People magazine reported in 1995, Loring "turned to drugs and eventually heroin" in the early '90s, but got clean in rehab. "I was disillusioned about my adult life," she said. At the time, she hoped for comeback work, stating: "I will not do any schlock. But I'd love to do a Quentin Tarantino film."
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This has been a weird winter for Texas in general, and Houston in particular. Normally, during a La Niña winter, we see warmer and drier than normal conditions. We have checked the box for warmth—December was about 2 degrees above normal, and January is going to wind up about 5 degrees above normal. But as for rainfall, this winter has been anything but normal. Some areas of Houston have exceeded their normal allotment of rain for December, January, and February just during the last 10 days.
Those 10-day rain totals are recapped below, and occurred courtesy of cold fronts tapping into deep Gulf moisture after warm spells. This accumulated rainfall brought some bayous and waterways in northwest Houston to near bankfull on Sunday. Although we are going to remain in a wet period through Thursday, I do not think we’ll see enough heavy rainfall to cause the overall situation to change. That is to say, our soils will remain waterlogged, but I don’t anticipate any widespread flooding. Some clearing will finally come Thursday night.
The other big story this morning is the cold. If you’ll recall last week we waffled a lot on whether a front was going to push all the way into Houston. Well, this shallow Arctic front made it it all the way to the coast, and as a result we’re going to be cold all week, with highs generally in the 40s to 50s, and lows in the 40s. This is much colder than we anticipated even a couple of days ago. That is the end of the story for Houston, but for areas just to our north and west there is a rather nasty ice storm unfolding.
In areas such as Burleson, Brazos and Washington counties a light glaze of ice is possible on the roads today and tonight. Further away from the coast in Texas, significant icing is expected in places such as Austin and Dallas, from now through the middle of the day on Wednesday. This will seriously impact travel to and around those areas, and may cause serious power outages as ice accumulates on power lines. Areas that fall under this winter storm warning are shown in pink in the map below.
Back in Houston, we are going to see a chilly, gray day with scattered (mostly light) showers today as the cold air mass moves into Houston. Temperatures later today will range from the upper 40s for inland areas to lower 50s close to the coast. No travel issues are anticipated in the Houston metro area from the scattered precipitation, but it will be cold, with a northerly wind at about 10 mph. Low temperatures tonight drop to the low 40s in Houston, with upper 30s possible for inland areas.
This will be another cold and gray day with high temperatures generally in the upper 40s. We will again see decent rain chances, about 40 percent, with mostly light to moderate showers. Lows will drop to around 40 degrees on Tuesday night, with blustery northerly winds at 10 to 15 mph, and higher gusts.
The atmosphere will become more perturbed by the middle of the week, with a few disturbances moving through ahead of another cold front. The bottom line is that these, too, will be cold and gray days with high temperatures of about 50 degrees, and lows in the 40s. However, rain chances will be better, especially during the Wednesday night period. Although I don’t expect flooding issues to occur, areas north of Interstate 10 may pick up an additional 1 to 2 inches of rainfall through Thursday of this week, with 0.5 to 1.5 inches for areas south of the freeway. Rain chances should finally start to ebb by Thursday afternoon as the next front moves through to clear us out.
Behold, the Sun does exist! We’ll see it on Friday, with mostly sunny skies and high temperatures in the upper 50s. However these clearing skies will also allow for colder temperatures on Friday night. Lows will drop into the 30s, probably, with the potential for a light freeze for inland areas. We’ll see.
This weekend looks to see mostly sunny skies, with highs in the 60s. Yes, my friends, a sunny weekend. It should be something. We’ll be on the start of a warming trend by Sunday, with highs climbing into the low 70s by the early part of next week.
This post, boss said Pride shirts violate the dress code, how much notice should I get for work travel, and more , was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.
It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…
1. Boss said Pride shirts violate the dress code
My partner, A (he/him), recently received a call from his grandboss that A.’s shirt during an all-hands Zoom meeting was “unprofessional” and he can no longer wear it to work. The shirt in question is a standard T-shirt, navy in color, clean with no holes, and says PRIDE in rainbow letters across the front. The meeting was totally internal and the team works variously in the office, which is not public, or on job sites. (Think outdoor construction projects where workers occasionally interface with clients. A wears clothing appropriate for weather and safety on job sites.) The meeting occurred on a Friday morning, and the call about it wasn’t made until the next Monday. A publicly identifies as queer and has been open about the fact that he is in a relationship with me, a nonbinary trans person (they/them).
Grandboss cited the company’s dress code, which states: “Appearance must be neat, clean, and professional. Any casual apparel such as shorts, tight-fitting, or revealing clothing is highly discouraged. Any apparel with offensive or inappropriate graphics, verbiage, or competitor’s logos is strictly prohibited.” When A pointed out that other employees in the office also wear graphic T-shirts and other casual attire, Grandboss said, “I’d make the same call if it was MAGA, BLM, left, or right.”
A’s company is headquartered in a very LGBTQ-unfriendly state, but we live and work in an extremely LGBTQ-friendly state with explicit legal protections against discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation and gender identity. A works in an extremely small, specialized industry, and it would be very difficult for him to find a new job unless he were willing to change careers (or relocate to a different state, but that’s not really on the table for a lot of reasons, including the groundswell of anti-trans state legislation and the fact that I would lose access to a nice pension).
Is there any way A can reasonably push back on this, as he really wants to, or is he better off just biting his tongue? I appreciate any insight you can give; the situation is really frustrating and upsetting.
Wow. A’s grandboss is trying to say the shirt is political … but it’s a shirt promoting inclusion and protection of other humans. (Same for BLM.) In citing the dress code’s prohibition on “offensive and inappropriate” verbiage, is he saying that protecting LGBTQ people is … offensive or inappropriate? What a disgusting edict.
Whether to push back comes down to A’s sense of how that will go over in this particular company (headquartered in an LGBTQ-unfriendly state), his own capital there, and how much he wants to push back. I’d love to tell him that yes, he absolutely should escalate it but — especially given that he wants/needs to stay at this job if at all possible — he has the best sense of what will be safest for him there. If he thinks it’s likely to end in the company backing up the boss (probably by arguing the shirt is “political”) and tension with his chain of command, it might make sense to simply file this away as a damning fact about his grandboss — and his company — but not act. On the other hand, if he thinks someone in HR (and certainly his DEI team if they have one) would be receptive, it could take less capital than you’d think. (Any chance the company has a LGBTQ resource group? If so, they’d be helpful, both in figuring out whether to speak up and in deciding how.)
To be clear, not acting wouldn’t mean what the grandboss did is okay; it would just be about A prioritizing his safety within the company as long as he needs to stay there.
2. How much notice should I get for work travel?
I am in a position that does not currently require travel, but was asked to fly out to my company’s HQ location for a couple of days for an in-person meeting (it would take 10 hours to drive there). Unfortunately I can’t go because I’m out of office that week, but they only gave me 10 days (six business days) of notice before asking if I could travel to this meeting. Is that amount of time reasonable for a role where I am not normally expected to travel, and if not, how many days advance typically would be reasonable? My sister thinks anything less than three weeks would be unreasonable, but since this would be my first ever business trip after almost six years with my company, I wanted to see if we’re both off-base.
You’re both off-base. It’s not strange to be given 10 days of notice for a trip, even in a job that doesn’t normally require travel. Sometimes things come up without a ton of notice.
Typically it’s reasonable to expect at least a few days notice (unless you’re in a job that’s travel-heavy), but even then something could come up faster and you might be asked to travel. If you can’t do it because of the short notice (for example, if that wasn’t enough time to arrange overnight child care or so forth), you’d explain that — but it’s not inherently unreasonable for an employer to ask.
3. I want a new job but I don’t want to screw over my team
I’d like to get a new job, potentially within my company or potentially somewhere entirely new. I’m fortunately in a position where I can walk rather than run away; as long as I’m somewhere else before the end of the year I’ll be a happy camper.
However, I like everyone on my current team and I don’t want to leave them in a difficult spot if I can help it. And if I left now, they would be in a tricky spot indeed. Two of our most senior team members left within the past months, and several other teammates (including the one that would have to assume my responsibilities should I leave) have been dealing with very unfortunate personal issues which caused them to have to take several weeks off previously.
I know I should prioritize my needs over making everyone else’s lives easier, but I do have the flexibility to stay for at least a few more months before I start to get antsy. I’ve cleaned up my resume and cover letter, but have not applied anywhere yet since I worry I might get a great offer that I would want to take ASAP.
Do you have any advice on how to best navigate this? How much of a grace should I give before I start applying to other places? Will I be burning a bridge by leaving to early? Am I totally off base and should just start applying places now?
Leave on the timeline that works for you; if you want to start applying now, start applying now. Having people leave, even at inconvenient times — even at very inconvenient times — is a normal part of doing business, and your organization will figure it out. You will not burn a bridge unless the place is wildly dysfunctional (and if that’s the case, all sorts of other normal stuff you do could burn a bridge too, and you can’t cater to irrationality).
Keep in mind that if you wait, other things could happen that could make it even more inconvenient for you to leave a few months from now! Someone else could leave. You could be assigned a huge project that they’re counting on you for. Your boss could get sick. There’s no guarantee that waiting will make things better, and it could make them worse. Go when it’s convenient for you.
4. Asking for a clothing allowance
I work for a nonprofit. 90% of my work is wholly unglamorous work-from-home stuff. Increasingly, though, I’m called upon to be a spokesperson for our organization on TV. I’m happy to do it because it is great for our organization, but it’s not at all what I was hired to do (we didn’t even do TV when I started).
Here’s the thing: I’m naturally kind of scruffy, don’t wear makeup, buy all my clothes secondhand. TV standards for women’s appearances are so high! Is it okay to ask my boss for a small annual stipend for me to buy smart clothes and makeup for TV? The only other employee who acts as a spokesperson is male so always wears the same suit and no makeup and no one cares either way.
This is such an interesting question, because the way you’ve framed it, it is a business expense but different managers will see it different ways. Some managers will think, “You have to buy clothes for work and sometimes those clothes need to be professional, and that’s not an expense your employer will cover for you” … but others would be open to it if you pitch it the right way. It’ll depend on your manager, but it wouldn’t be unreasonable to say something like, “With the increased amount of TV I’m doing, I think it’s important that I look the part by wearing clothes and appropriate makeup that represent us well. I would literally never buy anything like this and doing TV for Org is the only time I’ll use it, so would you be willing to consider that a business expense?” She may or may not agree, but it’s not an outrageous thing to inquire about.
Just as a point of interest — although it’s not the same situation — my brother-in-law, who is a TV news reporter, has been reimbursed for (some) clothing, makeup, and at one point haircuts. He notes that it’s been cut back on in recent years though.
5. VP missed our call for a complaint I’m trying to escalate
I’m trying to escalate an issue, and my VP offered to meet. She gave me a particular time for a phone call, but then she didn’t reach out and I was left hanging. I went to her because the two levels between me and her aren’t listening. There’s no official route for issues like these except for an ethics complaint line, and this isn’t an ethics issue. What do I do?
Follow up with her! Send an email saying, “I’m guessing you ended up with a conflict for our 2 pm phone call yesterday. Is there a time we could reschedule for? I’d like to talk with you if at all possible.” (Also, if you can, arrange it so that this time you’re calling her rather than the reverse.)
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Good morning. We just wanted to offer a Sunday post for a couple reasons. First, obviously, after this week’s storms, we know a lot of people are going to be sensitive to the mention (or sound) of thunderstorms. Secondly, we have more confidence in today’s forecast.
What’s changed since Friday? Honestly, not a whole lot. We’re getting areas of heavy rain, as expected. But I think both confidence and intensity of heavy rain has increased enough for us to place the area under a Stage 1 flood alert on our flood scale.
We have already seen parts of western Harris County, which were hardest hit this past week in terms of rain see over 2 inches of rainfall. The Weather Prediction Center has kept much of the area under a slight risk (level 2/4) of excessive rainfall for today.
Basically, given Tuesday’s rain, the fact that today’s rain is performing or overperforming to this point, and the shorter-range model guidance for the rest of today, we felt it necessitated an upgrade in messaging. So, please watch for areas of street flooding, especially across western Harris, northern Harris, southern Montgomery, Liberty, and Chambers Counties today, east to Beaumont.
Radar as of 8:35 shows numerous areas of heavier rainfall, especially near Liberty and Cleveland, as well as across northern and western Harris, Montgomery, and Wharton Counties.
With a front essentially crawling across the area today, repetitive rounds of storms are likely, and that’s why we have the flooding risk. Rain tapers to isolated showers this evening.
We want to be clear about today’s forecast. Two things can be true simultaneously: 1.) Some of the storms later this morning or this afternoon could be strong to severe. 2.) This setup looks absolutely nothing like the one that caused Tuesday’s severe weather and tornado outbreak.
This looks to be more of a classic Houston severe weather setup, with the risk for isolated cells producing gusty winds, hail, or yes, even a brief spinup. The odds of this are modestly higher east of Houston into Louisiana. I wouldn’t dwell on this too much about this today, but I also did not experience a tornado on Tuesday, so I get it. It’s a good idea to just monitor the weather through the afternoon to be safe.
Additional showers are possible on both Monday and Tuesday this week, but at this time, we do not expect heavy rainfall. That chance may increase later in the week, however.
The front is going to essentially stall out over the area. What that does is create challenges for temperature forecasting. I would anticipate Monday being a cool day right now with temperatures generally in the 50s. All bets are off on Tuesday and beyond. Ensemble guidance projects high temperatures on Tuesday could be as low as 50 degrees or as warm as 75 degrees. Basically, the exact location of the front will determine how warm or cool we get in the days ahead. Have your wardrobe planned for multiple seasons this week. Eric will detail this more on Monday. We will update (if needed) again later today.
I think we can run out the clock of we get a doomsaying AI going.
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